Is this love fantasy, lust, or real? Read on to find out……
We are inundated each day on what falling in love is supposed to be like. Romance novels where the knight in shining armor, or the vampire saves the damsel in distress gives a false impression of what true love is. In the movies, couples dodge bullets, beat the bad guys up, and fall in love on a daily basis; a man and woman have a one night stand that turns into long, lasting marriage. If you really want to go overboard, watch a Disney movie!
Women especially buy into the fantasy relationship. Notice how I said fantasy? I love Anita Baker’s song, “Fairy Tale”. It gives ladies a reality check on what relationships really are. One of Anita’s song lyric says it all: “Reality steps into view.” If you are waiting for Prince Charming to ride up in his white Cadillac to turn your life around, you have a long wait. Instead, get behind the driver seat of a Pink Cadillac!
Here are some signs that you are in fantasy and/or lust land:
When we touch it is magical. Maybe you feel like this for today, but that is just Mother Nature getting you together to continue the human race. That feeling will not last forever.
This is part three of How to be Happy? Use the Three F’s.
Friendship is the third F of love. If you want to have a long lasting love relationship it is important to have a strong foundation of friendship with your partner. My Angels and Guides constantly play an old song in my head (I am the Musical Psychic) for my clients regarding this. The song lyric I hear is, “Getting to know you.” Unfortunately, in today’s society many people do not take the time to get to know each other. Instead they often have sex too soon, feel guilty or mistake that for love, and become committed. Of course, there are cases where it does work out. But a large majority of relationships that start with having sex and committing too soon are unhappy and end up failing.
Please, get to know your prospective mate first. Because there is nothing worse than finding out that you really don’t like this person after being physically intimate with them. If your possible soul mate keeps pushing you before you are ready, than say goodbye because it is obvious they don’t respect this important boundary. Here is an excerpt from my book, Insights for Singles: Steps for Everlasting Love, regarding this point.
This is part two of How to be Happy? Use the Three F’s.
Life is like a rose, beautiful, sweet smelling, and at times those thorns can really hurt. Fun helps make life worth living through the good and bad times. This may sound strange but there are some people that do not know how to have fun. Maybe, they constantly think negatively or are too serious. We can’t be serious all the time nor can we have fun constantly. There needs to be a balance.
How does fun help your love life?
Do you remember a time when you were around an unhappy person? Were they negative, critical, or boring? I bet after that encounter you were drained, and perhaps, feeling down. Were you in a hurry to see them again? Most likely, you were not.
People like being around a fun person because their positive energy makes them feel good! Fun people laugh a lot and laughter is contagious. These are the people that most of society wants to be around. Best of all, your mate or a potential love will find you much more attractive and irresistible.
The three F’s are the way to go if you want to become more positive, happier, and self-confident!
Everyone wants good loving, whether you are single, involved, or married. We all deserve a quality relationship and with the three F’s it is possible. By the way, the only four letter word I will be using is the Love word.
Here is some food for thought from my article that was just published on YourTango.com. Warning this is my first mildly erotic article.
Newlyweds? Add Some Sexy Foods To Jumpstart Your Honeymoon
You won’t need to order curry to add some spice to your honeymoon!
Congratulations! You and your sweetie have fallen in love with your hearts and gotten married. Now it’s time to fall in love with your stomachs. Food is a powerful aphrodisiac that will add spice to your life and, for adventurous newlyweds, your honeymoon. But here’s a tip: lose the whipped cream and edible panties — so boring and predictable. Read on to learn new, creative and exciting ways to have fun with food. Grab a fan because it’s about to get hot in here!
This video was filmed at one of my favorite places, Swansboro, NC. I always feel such serenity here, even when I am just driving over the bridge. This will be my last posting of the Musical Message of the Week. Please follow me at YouTube for your weekly short but sweet message.